If you can’t respond in love, then don’t respond. If you’ve lost God’s perspective of another, then take a step back. Choose your battles. Your pride has crept up. Go to battle with that.
You don’t have to win. When pride is fueling your responses, your responses will be wrong.
Recognize your pride. It’s your real enemy. Question it. Search yourself while pride is watching. Feel that separation between your flesh and spirit. Pride versus grace. Acknowledge the ugliness so that you know what to push back. Listen to your spirit, God’s spirit within you. When you’re aware of your sin, you’re in the presence of God.
“Woe is me! …I am lost; … I am a man of unclean lips, and I dwell in the midst of a people of unclean lips; for my eyes have seen the King, the LORD of hosts!” –Isaiah 6:5 ESV
Pride is often ushered in by pain or rejection. The desire to strike out is overwhelming, especially if you have good cause. As with any sin, the promise of relief is a lie because you end up feeling worse about yourself when you give in.
Step aside. Be quiet so that you can hear God. He’ll show you what’s really going on. His perspective calms you. His presence quiets you.
Breathe deeply. Exhale the tension.
…he touched my mouth and said: “Behold, this has touched your lips; your guilt is taken away, and your sin atoned for.” –Isaiah 6:7 ESV
Be you again.