you don’t have to win

Posted: January 23rd, 2011 | Filed under: life | 16 Comments »

If you can’t respond in love, then don’t respond. If you’ve lost God’s perspective of another, then take a step back. Choose your battles. Your pride has crept up. Go to battle with that.

You don’t have to win. When pride is fueling your responses, your responses will be wrong.

Recognize your pride. It’s your real enemy. Question it. Search yourself while pride is watching. Feel that separation between your flesh and spirit. Pride versus grace. Acknowledge the ugliness so that you know what to push back. Listen to your spirit, God’s spirit within you. When you’re aware of your sin, you’re in the presence of God.

Woe is me! …I am lost; … I am a man of unclean lips, and I dwell in the midst of a people of unclean lips; for my eyes have seen the King, the LORD of hosts!”Isaiah 6:5 ESV

Pride is often ushered in by pain or rejection. The desire to strike out is overwhelming, especially if you have good cause. As with any sin, the promise of relief is a lie because you end up feeling worse about yourself when you give in.

Step aside. Be quiet so that you can hear God. He’ll show you what’s really going on. His perspective calms you. His presence quiets you.

Breathe deeply. Exhale the tension.

…he touched my mouth and said: “Behold, this has touched your lips; your guilt is taken away, and your sin atoned for.”Isaiah 6:7 ESV

Be you again.



16 Comments on “you don’t have to win”

  1. 1 Alicia said at 7:21 am on January 23rd, 2011:

    I totally agree!! Wow..I needed to read this, this morning!

  2. 2 Serena Woods said at 8:13 am on January 23rd, 2011:

    Me, too. 🙂

  3. 3 Heather said at 10:27 am on January 23rd, 2011:

    i LOVE this. i really do. it is right where i am at.

  4. 4 janelle said at 12:37 pm on January 23rd, 2011:

    "When pride is fueling your responses, your responses will be wrong!" Eggzactly ! boy

    did I experience that this week…but I looked

    up and not at myself, and allowed the Lord to step in and calm my spirit. I let him love me–

    the rejected me. And I'm okay. Grace.

  5. 5 Stephanie said at 1:51 pm on January 23rd, 2011:

    Thank you for writing this Serena, I needed to read it. Pride is one of the sins I struggle with the most. This post is MUCH better than your post on like a warm cup of coffee – I guess I respond better to hugs like this than face slaps like the other, lol.

  6. 6 Angela said at 2:15 pm on January 23rd, 2011:

    Oh Serena…this post grabbed my heart and was a beautiful reminder to me who has recently slipped back into some old patterns.

  7. 7 Stephani said at 5:59 pm on January 23rd, 2011:

    Wow! I so needed this. This hit me right between my eyes. I've been prideful. Thank you for helping me to see this so clearly.

  8. 8 erinbeth said at 6:06 pm on January 23rd, 2011:

    "If you've lost God's perspective of someone, take a step back." Wow. This really spoke to me. I struggle with control and anger and these words you've written…well, I really appreciate them.

  9. 9 Sunny said at 1:21 am on January 24th, 2011:

    The hardest thing to remember is that people are not the enemy.

  10. 10 Marilyn said at 4:00 am on January 24th, 2011:

    Some of the best advice I've seen in a long time. We have lost the ability to love one another in a hard drive to win….and what's worse, we call the drive to win our vision from God.

  11. 11 eileen said at 5:52 am on January 24th, 2011:

    I've been learning that if our desire to win takes priority over desiring to be in God's will then we end up losing any ways. Best to seek Him first. He promises to satisfy us.

  12. 12 Serena Woods said at 9:17 am on January 24th, 2011:

    The only reason a person would double their fists in stubborn pride is because they're afraid that what they want others to believe isn't true. The truth is not ours to control like a whip lashing out. God's word has a life of it's own, fully alive, therefore, we don't have to worry about it. God is much more gentle and knows exactly how to permeate the hearts of those He chooses to permeate. Love softens and warms. Clay is only moldable when it is warmed and softened. Our job is to love others. God will do what He needs to do.

  13. 13 cyndi said at 2:55 pm on January 24th, 2011:

    Thanks for this post. This weekend I come under this exact situation and let pride get in the way. Your words from God help me to see my wrongs. Keep it up!

  14. 14 April said at 9:30 am on January 25th, 2011:

    this message is life-giving, life-changing. thank you…

  15. 15 Heather said at 10:39 am on January 25th, 2011:

    Such a wonderful post, so often i let pride get in the way of my heart. Thank you for helping Father mold me a bit more.

  16. 16 liz said at 2:20 pm on January 25th, 2011:

    I am dealing with this exact thing in my life. Not so much the words said but how they wer said and recieved or percieved by the other party, who does not know the Lord.

    Very hard situation. But praise God He is there in the midst of it.

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