you are not forgotten

Posted: January 12th, 2010 | Filed under: life | Tags: | 25 Comments »

When life is heavy and hard to take, go off by yourself. Enter the silence. Bow in prayer. Don’t ask questions: Wait for hope to appear. Don’t run from trouble. Take it full-face. The “worst” is never the worst. Why? Because the Master won’t ever walk out and fail to return. If he works severely, he also works tenderly. His stockpiles of loyal love are immense. -Lamentations 3:28-32

The silence in the aftermath of sin is not evidence that you have been discarded by God, maybe by others, but not by Him. He will never leave you, He will never take His love from you. If you know this and believe this, then you can get through anything. ‘The ‘worst’ is never the worst, because He will never walk out and fail to return.’ If He turns His face from you, He will bring you back.

Love never dies. -1 Corinthians 13:8

You are not forgotten. Love has not walked away from you. Silence does not mean abandonment. He’s not like us, he keeps His promises and He doesn’t leave when it gets tough. If He picked you out for Himself before you breathed a single breath, do you think you could do something that would make Him change His mind? Love does not waver, Love does not die.

God has not rejected his people whom he foreknew. -Romans 11:2 ESV

What can you do that surprises a God who knows everything before it happens? If He knew about your sin before it happened and He took care of the penalty before you existed, then why are you so afraid? He’s not going to leave you. Even if His love for you could allow Him to walk away, He wouldn’t get far because every time He looked at His hands, He would see you.

I will not forget you. …I have engraved you on the palms of my hands. -Isaiah 49:15-16



25 Comments on “you are not forgotten”

  1. 1 Melanie said at 6:03 am on January 12th, 2010:

    Wow… Thank you.

  2. 2 Jason said at 6:19 am on January 12th, 2010:

    "Silence does not mean abandonment"

    I wish it didn't feel that way though. 🙁

  3. 3 M* said at 7:27 am on January 12th, 2010:

    I used to believe this.

  4. 4 Serena Woods said at 7:48 am on January 12th, 2010:

    Melanie: 🙂

    Jason: Does it help to know you're not alone? When the light goes on, I bet you'd be surprised who many are there with you. Isolation is it's own hell.

    M*: 'used to'…what do you believe now?

  5. 5 M* said at 10:12 am on January 12th, 2010:

    I believe that when I give up it will be said I did not wait (long enough)

    That or one of the other N things offered when one gives up

  6. 6 Anonymous said at 8:25 pm on January 12th, 2010:


    Don't sweat it.

    I gave up a long, long, long time ago.

    But, He did not.

  7. 7 Serena Woods said at 8:46 pm on January 12th, 2010:

    The essence of being in love is doing it with no return. The question, I guess, is are you in a place where you will wait for your love simply because Love said to wait? I love Him. I don't care if I ever get anything out if it. I would walk through Hell just to be with Him. But, as the story goes, He walked through Hell to be with me.

  8. 8 Lindsey @ A New Life said at 1:20 am on January 13th, 2010:

    Yes, I have been there…wondering why I have showed up to the fight with all the bells and whistles ready to battle, and that God forgot to show up to the party.

    I've learned the HARD way that God does not "owe" me anything because of what I have been through in my past.

    That my choosing Him over my life of sin and heartache before is a conscious act of obedience and reverence on my part to Him.

    And that even though He may seem distant sometimes, and I do feel abandoned sometimes; those feelings CAN NOT rule my heart. I feel alone because I am choosing to believe that lie; and that my perception of God's absence is usually due to my being lovingly disciplined because of my stubbornness and unbelief in what He has promised me…to always love me, to be faithful, to make me new and show me how to be free.

    God loves us so infinitely and so deeply that He would be doing us a disservice if He did not weed out our sin and selfishness and teach us to trust Him, therefore growing in spiritual maturity.

    One of my favorite passages:

    "3 More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, 4 and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, 5 and hope does not put us to shame, because God's love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us." -Romans 5: 3-5

    One of my favorite songs says:

    "So When the whole world turns against me

    And I'm all by myself

    And I can't hear You answer my cries for help

    I'll remember the suffering Your love put You through

    And I will go through the valley If You want me to "

    Nothing I go through can ever compare. And everything I go through can only prepare me. Puts everything in perspective.

  9. 9 m* said at 7:26 am on January 13th, 2010:

    tap me when the band begins to setup…

    Come back, God—how long do we have to wait?—and treat your servants with kindness for a change. Surprise us with love at daybreak; then we’ll skip and dance all the day long. Make up for the bad times with some good times; we’ve seen enough evil to last a lifetime. Let your servants see what you’re best at—the ways you rule and bless your children. And let the loveliness of our Lord, our God, rest on us, confirming the work that we do. Oh, yes. Affirm the work that we do! -Psalm 90:13-17

  10. 10 Rachel said at 7:47 am on January 13th, 2010:

    God never leaves – we sometimes feel He does but that thought or feeling comes from a past where people have left or abandoned us or something of the like. It comes from needing to go deeper into a real relationship with Him grounded in His Word so our trust grows in Him and His faithfulness. It comes from other things but never a place of truth that IF we are His He will never leave or forsake us. A good parent would never leave a child no matter how they acted and how much more God.


    Stirring the Deep

  11. 11 m* said at 9:17 am on January 13th, 2010:

    see it has already started

    you need to go deeper

    you do not have a real relationship with him

    you are not in the word

    'round up the usual suspects'

    i know the list, shall i complete it for you?

    really i just need a street-level miracle

  12. 12 Anonymous said at 10:46 am on January 13th, 2010:

    "Street-level miracle"? Care to elaborate?

  13. 13 m* said at 8:07 pm on January 13th, 2010:

  14. 14 TheNorEaster said at 2:06 am on January 14th, 2010:

    "Love at daybreak"? I can relate.

    "But I know, somehow, only when it is dark enough can one see the stars.". -MLK

    I don't know much about the reference to a "street-level mriacle", but I have had my own trip to hell.

    And I have seen the sunrise of His love at daybreak, too. Many times. (M*: you may also want to read an Essay entitled, "I Have Been Through The Fire Before". Would have left the link, but Spam-Monsters don't usually like two links in one comment.)

  15. 15 m* said at 4:35 am on January 14th, 2010:

    so maybe the street-level miracle will be that the tuna casserole won't have peas in it

    but then some people like peas

    and surprisingly some don't like it with potato chips crumbled on top

    g*d help us if this is what we have to serve-up to a dieing world

  16. 16 Serena Woods said at 5:33 am on January 14th, 2010:

    m*: what if where you are is exactly where you are supposed to be and all the pain, frustration and resentment you may feel is just the birth pains of something else? What if this isn't for a sort of 'gain' that you want, but for something entirely different? What if this 'sickness' or delay was not to build you up, but to build Him up? Would you suffer the boiling down, the death, the pain if it meant that it illuminated Him? The question is, would you lose yourself and all that you hope so that you gain Him and only have hope/faith in Him? There is always a point of submission, this may be yours. You or Him…

  17. 17 April said at 6:31 am on January 14th, 2010:

    Serena, that little note you just wrote to m* was to me as well. M* thank you for your brutal honesty. Serena- thank you for sincere thoughtful response that I was supposed to read right now for something I am going through as well.

  18. 18 m* said at 6:58 am on January 14th, 2010:

    i get that serena, really i do

    more wait and see, more eliminating expectation, less me – more him, more less

    this is actually not what i read in scripture straight out

    it is a bit of the 'romanticism' i read when what we have believed about scripture … does not transpire

    and we can always be more submitted – that too is on the list

    so is a form of false-martyrdom

    what we have here is for the most part non-demonstrable (except internally and through personal interpretation)

    we seem to have excuses for everything rather than good answers

    right now i am trying to be content with: He replied, "I know nothing about that one way or the other. But I know one thing for sure: I was blind . . . I now see."

    but i have walked around wide-eyed for so long now, looking for a small indication of a big strong hand

    do let me know if i am messing up your blog with my thoughts

  19. 19 Serena Woods said at 7:37 am on January 14th, 2010:

    M* : Your thoughts are more than welcome.

    I like this part: right now i am trying to be content with: He replied, “I know nothing about that one way or the other. But I know one thing for sure: I was blind . . . I now see.”

    There's no way that you're going to get lost in this struggle. Nothing and no one can snatch you out of His hand. (John10:29)

    You're fine. You're just growing. If we could hear the thoughts of a flower while it was growing, I bet it would sound the same.

  20. 20 m* said at 8:11 am on January 14th, 2010:

    isn't this more romanticism?

    where is the strong hand?

    where is my tuna-casserole?

  21. 21 Serena Woods said at 8:25 am on January 14th, 2010:

    Okay, but the 'strong hand' will just be in the form of a scripture verse since I don't know everything.

    "Who in the world do you think you are to second-guess God? Do you for one moment suppose any of us knows enough to call God into question? Clay doesn't talk back to the fingers that mold it, saying, "Why did you shape me like this?" Isn't it obvious that a potter has a perfect right to shape one lump of clay into a vase for holding flowers and another into a pot for cooking beans? If God needs one style of pottery especially designed to show his angry displeasure and another style carefully crafted to show his glorious goodness, isn't that all right?" -Romans 8:20-24

    I'm not a 'tuna-casserole' kind of girl (peas or no peas).

  22. 22 m* said at 8:42 am on January 14th, 2010:

    that one is on the list as well

    but truly it must be compared with all other things we see written

    we do have 'promises' do we not

    maybe you are using the wrong kind of soup – try cream of mushroom

  23. 23 Serena Woods said at 8:53 am on January 14th, 2010:

    are you wanting something for yourself? (identity, something tangible, an easier time?)

    no, seriously, i really don't like casseroles of any sort. sodium squishmash. a heap of cheese atop a dish of no creativity. cornflake crusted fat. a dish that doesn't care if you use a spoon, fork or a piece of Wonderbread.

  24. 24 m* said at 2:46 pm on January 14th, 2010:

    i guess with all i have written one might expect tuna helper … but


    3 c. noodles

    1 (6 oz.) can tuna fish, drained

    1 can peas

    1 can cream of mushroom soup

    1/2 c. milk

    1 c. potato chips

    1/2 tsp. salt

    Dash of pepper

    Cook and drain noodles. Separate tuna into flakes; mix with soup, milk, and seasonings. Combine noodles and tuna mixture in a baking dish, gently mixing in peas. Crumble chips and spread on top. Bake at 375 degrees for 25 minutes. Makes 6 servings.

  25. 25 Serena Woods said at 3:08 pm on January 14th, 2010:

    literally laughing.