who here is blind?

Posted: February 22nd, 2010 | Filed under: life | Tags: | 7 Comments »

Those who can’t seem to get it together are better off than those who think they have a good grip. I would rather sit next to the guy who smells like pot than the woman who looks down on him. I would rather talk to someone with a million questions than listen to someone who has it all figured out. Once you’ve lost the capacity to learn, you’re dead weight.

We all have weaknesses, addictions and tendencies. If you’re not being real, you don’t know what they are. If you can’t spot them, you can’t sandbag against them. The best way to find your weak points is to live without fear of failure while still aware that you’ll fail. When the bomb goes off, trace the wire back to the trigger. Your own sin can be a huge asset when you’re trying to choose where to stand.

Everyone has a tendency toward certain sins. Do you know what yours are? Instead of feeling defeated by your failures, be empowered by the knowledge.

An alcoholic will always be an alcoholic, but he doesn’t have to drink. He can find his triggers and make a plan. If he knows he’s an alcoholic who binges when stressed, he can refer to his escape plan and fight against his natural tendency. This doesn’t mean he’ll never slip. It means he’s got an extra rail between him and the fall.

I never knew I had the capacity to cheat until I cheated. I thought it would be a lot harder to cross that bridge. Before experiencing that failure, there were a lot of behaviors that I never would have seen as foreplay to the consummation of adultery. I knew I was a good person and I saw my behavior as harmless and innocent.

Now that I know where my weaknesses are, a lot of ‘innocent’ behavior doesn’t look as innocent to me. My boundaries are further out and I can spot danger quicker. I would be a fool to say I would never do it again. Not seeing my ability in the first place was one of my biggest mistakes. However, I can acknowledge that I’ve put more distance between me and that pitfall.

If you deny your weakness or are unaware of it, then you will not know where the traps and triggers are and you will not have an escape plan. Those in denial will always be bruised because they’re more scared of labels than of constantly falling into the same hole.

It’s like a blind man refusing to admit that he’s blind. He claims to be able to see clearly, so when he destroys things in his path, he has no excuse and will get no help. If he can’t see clearly, then he won’t clean up his messes properly and will be despised for that, too. If he would realize and admit that he was blind, he would get more help, compassion and mercy. Those who claim to see clearly are expected to see clearly. Anything claiming to be perfect is judged against perfection.

“If you were really blind, you would be blameless, but since you claim to see everything so well, you’re accountable for every fault and failure.” -John 9:41

  • Do you know where your weaknesses are?
  • Do you have an escape route?
  • What can you share with others that may help them learn from your mistakes?

whib


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7 Comments on “who here is blind?”

  1. 1 Jason said at 6:25 am on February 22nd, 2010:

    Oh boy..do I know my weak spots. πŸ™‚

    I'd say the one biggest lesson I'd share with someone is that you cannot do this alone. Vowing to yourself that you'll "never do it again" but have no accountability for it will not get the job done. You'll do it again. Bring everything into the light.

  2. 2 Serena Woods said at 6:46 am on February 22nd, 2010:

    Good advice, Jason. πŸ™‚ Knowing your weaknesses doesn't make them go away, it lets you know what tools to use.

  3. 3 Tia said at 7:05 am on February 22nd, 2010:

    I am sure I don't know all my weaknesses, but I know the big ones I've almost drown in thus far. This year has been incredible because I've really opened myself up and watched as God began cleaning things out of my heart and showing me things I never understood before. What I would tell others is if you find someone who has proven themselves trustworthy – tell them all the deep dark yuck you are carrying around. Make yourself speak the words and the power they hold over you will be dimished. But don't solely rely on someone else to keep you from falling again – we still have take responsibilty for our own actions. And then I would tell them how wonderful freedom truly feels.

  4. 4 Serena Woods said at 7:11 am on February 22nd, 2010:

    Tia: love it. πŸ™‚ It made me think of these:

    Make this your common practice: Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you can live together whole and healed. -James 5:16

    Stoop down and reach out to those who are oppressed. Share their burdens, and so complete Christ's law. If you think you are too good for that, you are badly deceived. -Galatians 6:3

  5. 5 Jennie said at 4:44 pm on February 22nd, 2010:

    "I would rather set next to a guy that smells like pot, than the woman that looks down on him" WOW! I have never thought of it that way! I think being judgemental is something that we all have to overcome to some extent. I herd something yesterday that stuck with me…

    Usually when someone compliments you on something it is because it is something they are interested in, but when someone judges you about something it is usually over something they are insecure about.

    That really stuck with me, because everytime I have caught myself being judemental over someone those words rang true. It was either something about them that reminded me of something I was insecure about, or I was jealous.

    Thanks for writing this, I think it was just what I needed to hear!

  6. 6 Rosy Caesar said at 6:09 pm on February 22nd, 2010:

    With every fall, I understand my capacity to sin… And with every sin, all my so-called "innocent" behaviour stares at me, sometimes the burden is so un-bearable… initially my tendency was to defend myself… then I stopped defending and was badly in need of punishment to balance my act… very recently I gave up my independence and rely on Him, Him alone… Yes Serena, grace is for sinners.

  7. 7 Jennie said at 9:44 pm on February 22nd, 2010:

    “I would rather set next to a guy that smells like pot, than the woman that looks down on him” WOW! I have never thought of it that way! I think being judgemental is something that we all have to overcome to some extent. I herd something yesterday that stuck with me…

    Usually when someone compliments you on something it is because it is something they are interested in, but when someone judges you about something it is usually over something they are insecure about.

    That really stuck with me, because everytime I have caught myself being judemental over someone those words rang true. It was either something about them that reminded me of something I was insecure about, or I was jealous.

    Thanks for writing this, I think it was just what I needed to hear!


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