You have a world of possibility and choices in front of you. You see lush life and the perfect fit between what you need and what you see. All you have to do is ram the staff of your flag into the ground and claim it as yours.
But, other people want it, too. Other people need the same things you need. You can muscle your way in, assert your right to happiness, and elbow to the front of the line, but is that the way it’s supposed to be done? In a space where God asks you to let Him guide you, it’s hard to not take the reigns and fight for the best acres of life.
Abraham and Lot were traveling with their families and belongings to find a place to settle and flourish. They came to a part of land where in one direction all they could see was lush beauty and promise and the other direction looked like second best.
Then Abram said to Lot, “Let there be no strife between you and me, and between your herdsmen and my herdsmen, for we are kinsmen. Is not the whole land before you? Separate yourself from me. If you take the left hand, then I will go to the right, or if you take the right hand, then I will go to the left.” -Genesis 13:9-10 ESV
God asks us to let our lives be ruled by love because He Is Love. Love doesn’t say, “me first.” Love gives the best and takes the left overs. If you live your life this way, it removes the control from your hands and lets God lead you.
But, most of the time it makes no sense. We are instinctually inclined to be guided by survival. ‘Survival of the fittest.’ Love doesn’t make sense.
“And Lot lifted up his eyes and saw that the Jordan Valley was well watered everywhere like the garden of the LORD, like the land of Egypt, in the direction of Zoar. (This was before the LORD destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah.) So Lot chose for himself all the Jordan Valley, and Lot journeyed east.” -Genesis 13:10-11 ESV
Abraham let Lot have the first pick and Lot chose the best piece of land. Abraham bid him farewell and headed in the direction of second best. He took each step knowing that God promised Him the best and it seemed that God’s promise was growing smaller behind his back.
When you let love guide your decisions, it releases God’s control in your life. You can’t see the future of what you think you want. You can’t see that the best piece of land was settled by something that could destroy you.
The best piece of land, the piece that Lot chose, was near Sodam and Gomorrah. It looked to be the best and to hold the most promise, but only God knew what lay ahead. Abraham chose to let love guide his steps and that made it possible for God to keep him far away from destruction.
God knows what He’s doing. Sometimes it may look like He’s forgotten you or He’s pouring out your promises on someone else. But, you have to know that things are not what they seem to be. There is so much that you want to do, places you want to go, lands you want to settle, but are, for whatever reason, stalled.
It is easy to get frustrated and impatient. Just remember that if you could see everything that God sees, you would trust Him without question. But, that’s where faith comes in. Faith that He has not forgotten you and that He will keep His promises to you. He’s given you a rope to hold on to while you’re wandering and waiting. That rope is love. Hold on to it and let Him work out the details.
Abraham eventually got the lush land, but He had to wait for God to get rid of the destruction first.
The LORD said to Abram, after Lot had separated from him, “Lift up your eyes and look from the place where you are, northward and southward and eastward and westward, for all the land that you see I will give to you and to your offspring forever. I will make your offspring as the dust of the earth, so that if one can count the dust of the earth, your offspring also can be counted. Arise, walk through the length and the breadth of the land, for I will give it to you.” -Genesis 13:14-17 ESV
Trust Him. He knows what He’s doing. He hasn’t forgotten you. If you have to wait, be glad. He’s making it perfect.