what do you need?

Posted: May 6th, 2013 | Filed under: life | Tags: , | 8 Comments »

It’s a “Me” world.

It’s easy to be disappointed all the time when all the mirrors are angled at you. As much as you try to have it together, the spotlight of “Me” is harsh and your jeans are fitting a little too tight.

Maybe you have reason to be disappointed. Maybe life really is rolling over you. But you can’t change that. The only thing you can change is the way you respond to it.

Do you need some acknowledgement? Do you need a witness to your pain?
Get it out.
Write it down.

What do you need?

No one else can fix you. This is personal.
No one can be enough for you. That’s not how we’re made.

Maybe your need is making them feel inadaquate, too.
Maybe everyone else is feeling the way you’re feeling right now.

We live in a world where people have lowered their standards enough to be okay with barely being okay. Maybe they don’t have any extra to spread around.

Did you write it down?
What do you need?
That’s your “to do” list. Do it for them. In some weird way, it comes back to you.


“Here is a simple, rule-of-thumb guide for behavior: Ask yourself what you want people to do for you, then grab the initiative and do it for them.”– Matthew 7:12 MSG

The bigger issue is your wispy self-worth.

You have to get your worth from a Well that doesn’t dry up.

“… but whoever drinks of the water that I will give him will never be thirsty again.” -Jesus in John 4:14 MSG




8 Comments on “what do you need?”

  1. 1 Tiffany said at 10:03 am on May 6th, 2013:

    I needed this post like I need the air God gives me to breathe. Sometimes disappointment and heartache are overwhelming…..

  2. 2 Charise said at 10:07 am on May 6th, 2013:

    I love when you said "You have to get your worth from a Well that doesn't dry up", I needed that!! How often to we try and get it from wells that are bone dry. Thank you Serena, I am thankful for your blog, your candidness, your raw honesty and your passion to see us made whole in Him. Blessings!

  3. 3 Dawn R. Justice Phenix said at 4:32 pm on May 6th, 2013:

    love,love love love lovelove this…

  4. 4 serenawoods said at 8:46 pm on May 6th, 2013:

    I hear you. When I make the mistake of putting my self worth in something outside me

  5. 5 serenawoods said at 8:46 pm on May 6th, 2013:

    Thank you, Charise. 🙂

  6. 6 serenawoods said at 8:46 pm on May 6th, 2013:

    Thanks, Dawn. 🙂

  7. 7 April said at 2:32 pm on May 7th, 2013:

    I wrote down "I need to be validated, I could use some moral support." I like how you suggest doing that for someone else!!

  8. 8 Dana said at 8:45 pm on May 22nd, 2013:

    I finished your book about a week ago, to say the least it has rocked my world. I am pretty sure I am going to start round 2 tonight. I learned so much, I am hungry for so much more… I really want to develop my relationship with god and sift through the religious surface crap and really know HIM…

    Today I sat down with my new online journal and starting to format it just as a typed prayer pretty much spilling my heart out.. Everything that I typed came to a place of awareness that I need to trust in gods bigger plan, those things I can not see.. It led me to a question that I don't know where to find the answer.. I was wondering if you had any suggestions, verses or starting points..

    Why am I praying if God's plan already exists? Why am I asking for things to turn out a certain way if his plan is going to happen anyway.. I am learning to trust in that plan.. I just am losing the prayer stuff in the translation. The things I am crying out for are heavy on my heart, but I keep asking myself.. Why pray about it.

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