As the survivor (spiritually speaking) of an affair, I have a much different take on the foreplay of a full-blown physical affair than someone who hasn’t overstepped the more obvious boundaries of adultery. There are so many ‘first steps’ that people take regularly that have my antenna up. I’ll list a few of the ones I can think of and call on some of you to add to the list. The point is to educate people who could be traveling down that path and still think their behavior has no real destination and doesn’t hurt anybody. This list is only intended to make you examine behaviors and be honest about what is behind them. I’ll only put a few to start so that you guys can build on top of it. The video is posted at the bottom.

• ‘Harmless’ flirting (even if you make sure to mention their spouse in the banter.)
• Private, unnessesary messages (texts, emails, etc.) no matter how innocent the content.
• You should be aware when you can be friends with a member of the opposite sex, but not with their significant other. (Real and cyber life. I have a lot to say on this, but may have to devote an entire blog to it.)
• You should be aware if you notice yourself dressing up a little extra or getting a little excited if you know you’ll see a specific member of the opposite sex (or same if you swing that way).

I’ll end my list there to leave room to add your suggestions (or experience).

This weeks blogs will mess around in this stuff a bit heavier. Please share your thoughts (privately or publicly) because my blogs often feed off of them.

Here’s the video…