Scripture reassures us, “No one who trusts God like this—heart and soul—will ever regret it.” It’s exactly the same no matter what a person’s religious background may be: the same God for all of us, acting the same incredibly generous way to everyone who calls out for help. “Everyone who calls, ‘Help, God!’ gets help.” – Romans 10:11-13 MSG
So many people are living lives divided between the seen and unseen. They feel alienated by what they’ve led others to believe and trapped by what they try to hide. We’re not designed to be able to carry on the facade like that. It’s an internal battle of self-hate and it won’t be long before the battle spills into the streets of your life. It’s not because you’re not good at hiding, it’s because you have a purpose that requires you to be whole and intact. It’s only a matter of time.
It’s hard to believe that there can be life after a dark secret is revealed. The lie that owns the darkness is that Love will abandon you if you tell, so you spend all of your time trying to fix yourself before anyone finds you out. But your secrets are a prison and lies are the warden. I have escaped that cell and can tell you that you can trust God to not let you fall to your spiritual death once you jump. Every part of this experience is crafted with precision to make you who you are called to be. You can trust Him to handle your worst. Embrace the experience with absolute assurance and you’ll live to worship Him for all of it.
Secrets make you smaller.
If you’re not man or woman enough to own your choices or to stand up for your behavior, then ask yourself in that moment: What part of Who-I-Want-To-Be is being sabotaged by Who-I-Really-Am? Your secrets aren’t serving you, you’re serving them. It’s not like you’re actually accomplishing anything lasting. It’s just veneer. Honesty is what will align you with your purpose. Even if your purpose is to break you before it’s built within you. If you think that you’ll disappoint God with your secret shame, you don’t know Him at all. God is in your hidden spaces communing with your hidden self. He knew all about your shame before you did.
Keeping secrets is like swallowing a slow-release poison.
If you’re only as sick as your secrets and not acknowledging it is like trying to protect a ticking time bomb. It makes no sense to put that much effort into something that is bent to destroy your facade. I know from experience that what is hidden doesn’t feel as real as what is exposed. But, …
You’re not hiding it as well as you think you are.
You can’t have the hidden life and the public life and be present in both at the same time. But, we’re not created to function as separate parts. That would be a psychological disorder. And a person with that legitimate disorder would tell you that the whole person is unquestionably affected by the separate identities. You’re not protecting your life from your secret. You’re protecting your secret from your life.
Everything gets found out.
If the holder of the secret is the one who lets it go, then that is one less offense against him. The guilt is released as you release yourself to the process. This is the moment by which your faith is defined. It’s reveals the ultimate question about what you think happens to people like you. I’ve submitted myself to that process, had to face my own version of that question, and should have been crushed. But, I wasn’t. I was placed up higher so I could be shown much more. Grace is ridiculous when you forget what Jesus chose to go through to accomplish it. You couldn’t possibly out-sin the forgiving power of the cross.
Not all secrets should be revealed.
Some things are better left behind. As long as you are really leaving them behind.
When all is said and done, only the truth remains. Whoever you really are is what will be left. If you’re really your hidden self, then make yourself known. If it is your public self, then stop protecting something that’s going to mess everything up. Your purpose is calling, and it wants all of you.