Comments on: compassion http://www.graceisforsinners.com/life/compassion/ When it's sin versus grace, grace wins hands down. Tue, 07 Feb 2012 17:04:43 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Serena Woods http://www.graceisforsinners.com/life/compassion/comment-page-1/#comment-1135 Serena Woods Tue, 08 Dec 2009 20:03:16 +0000 http://www.graceisforsinners.com/?p=1278#comment-1135 I like that, Tia. :) I like that, Tia. :)

]]> By: Tia http://www.graceisforsinners.com/life/compassion/comment-page-1/#comment-1134 Tia Tue, 08 Dec 2009 19:54:46 +0000 http://www.graceisforsinners.com/?p=1278#comment-1134 I don't know who said this or where it came from, but I recently went thru a similar situation where I was taking something very personally that probably had very little to do with me. It thru me into a temporary tailspin and a friend said to me, "When we react to our emotions, we take away the right of the other person to react to theirs" Then she added, "If you think someone owes you something, you've exalted yourself." I have had to come to throne humbly. I don't know who said this or where it came from, but I recently went thru a similar situation where I was taking something very personally that probably had very little to do with me. It thru me into a temporary tailspin and a friend said to me, "When we react to our emotions, we take away the right of the other person to react to theirs" Then she added, "If you think someone owes you something, you've exalted yourself." I have had to come to throne humbly.

]]> By: Serena Woods http://www.graceisforsinners.com/life/compassion/comment-page-1/#comment-1133 Serena Woods Tue, 08 Dec 2009 16:46:16 +0000 http://www.graceisforsinners.com/?p=1278#comment-1133 This post came out of a conversation I once had that just left me feeling gross and confused. I was dealing with someone who was almost combative. Everything I said was questioned or dismissed. I could sit and run it through my head over and over, but what good does that do? I tried to pray instead of stew, but found myself sounding like the other person. I was stuck. I wished that God would show <em>him/her</em> how <strong>He</strong> sees me and it hit me. I need to ask Him to show me how He sees <i><strong>him/her</strong></i>. I suddenly saw a wounded heart of someone who felt betrayed by God and didn't trust Him to protect <i>him/her</i> anymore. The combativeness and control that they were exhibiting had nothing to do with me. Taking offense and arguing would have done nothing for our 'relationship'. Now I know how to pray for <i>him/her</i> and it won't be selfish or full of pride. It's with a compassionate heart... Instead of an angry prayer, I was crying for/with <i>him/her</i>. Compassion, love, empathy....it's freeing!! This post came out of a conversation I once had that just left me feeling gross and confused. I was dealing with someone who was almost combative. Everything I said was questioned or dismissed.

I could sit and run it through my head over and over, but what good does that do? I tried to pray instead of stew, but found myself sounding like the other person. I was stuck.

I wished that God would show him/her how He sees me and it hit me. I need to ask Him to show me how He sees him/her. I suddenly saw a wounded heart of someone who felt betrayed by God and didn't trust Him to protect him/her anymore.

The combativeness and control that they were exhibiting had nothing to do with me. Taking offense and arguing would have done nothing for our 'relationship'.

Now I know how to pray for him/her and it won't be selfish or full of pride. It's with a compassionate heart… Instead of an angry prayer, I was crying for/with him/her.

Compassion, love, empathy….it's freeing!!

]]> By: A. http://www.graceisforsinners.com/life/compassion/comment-page-1/#comment-1132 A. Tue, 08 Dec 2009 14:51:03 +0000 http://www.graceisforsinners.com/?p=1278#comment-1132 I really resonate well with all of the above. What is it about relationships? and why is communication such a strange animal? I believe another great way to pray in the midst of difficulty is to acknowledge that God knows what the person needs, only God knows. Stop thinking you know what they need. I once was exhausted, emotionally drained from a particularly difficult relationship with my sister. I finally asked God to give me the desire to be around my sis. And to give her what she needed through me. I then realized that what she needed was to simply be heard. I shut my mouth even though the rude comments still flew, and I disagreed with everything she said to me. This time the comments flew right past me and I stayed physically there for her. It was what she needed. She was lonely. God showed me who He was and I learned so much in the process to let go myself and let Him guide me in the way of communication. I really resonate well with all of the above. What is it about relationships? and why is communication such a strange animal?

I believe another great way to pray in the midst of difficulty is to acknowledge that God knows what the person needs, only God knows. Stop thinking you know what they need. I once was exhausted, emotionally drained from a particularly difficult relationship with my sister. I finally asked God to give me the desire to be around my sis. And to give her what she needed through me. I then realized that what she needed was to simply be heard. I shut my mouth even though the rude comments still flew, and I disagreed with everything she said to me. This time the comments flew right past me and I stayed physically there for her. It was what she needed. She was lonely. God showed me who He was and I learned so much in the process to let go myself and let Him guide me in the way of communication.

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