is your grace for me, too?

Posted: March 2nd, 2011 | Filed under: life | Tags: | 35 Comments »

Everybody has a story. You don’t get to pick what your story is, and you don’t get to pick which parts God chooses to use. He weaves His beauty into the dark spaces… almost like He’s showing off. Bypassing the likely choices, He rummages through the broken bits to find pieces for His work of art. You are His work of art. He makes broken beautiful.

I’ll let Darlene tell you her own story…..

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Grace is for sinners. But what about me, Lord? Is your grace for me too?

But each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death. ~ James 1:14, NIV

I’m writing this blog through a wall of tears, in fact I’ve shed so many tears over this today that I don’t know if it’s possible to shed anymore. I don’t weep for my pain but for those around me. I grieve that my sin is touching the lives of those that I love.

I was so close to God for so long. I read the Bible so often, studying to show myself approved unto Him. I home schooled my kids for six years because I wanted nothing more than to direct them according to the will of God. Hungering for the word of God, I taught myself biblical Greek hoping to unveil the layers beneath, and I started CWO. I was serving God with all of my heart, leading one of the most popular online ministries when burnout set in. I had too much on my plate and I needed to step back from it all.

That’s when Satan crept in.

I was friends with a man, such good friends that our families spent vacations together. And when he started feeling more like family to me I started confiding in him and he in me. One text led to another, and friendship led us to down paths of darkness and sin.

Someone convincing me that he loved me more than anything else in his world was the apple I reached for. I had an affair. It wasn’t about sex necessarily, and for most women it rarely is. It was the feeling of being wanted and loved that I craved. Just one text… just one phone call… just one kiss… each step leading me into the pit of death.

I won’t say I made a “mistake.” A mistake is picking up 1% milk instead of 4. The ugly truth is that I sinned and I have no one to blame but myself.

iygfmtIt’s been almost a year since my husband and I have picked up the pieces. I repented of my sin, turned my life back around and have been doing what it takes to rebuild my future. I’m in awe of my husband who accepted me back with a heart of forgiveness, understanding, and grace. I never understood the depth of his love until I received his forgiveness and realized that I had the love that I craved all along.

And I’m nothing without the grace of God who has cleansed me from sin It’s that grace that gets me out of bed in the morning and keeps me moving throughout the day.

I started my ministry of Time-Warp Wife out of that place of grace, all the while wondering if God could use someone who’s broken and tarnished like me. The object of my ministry is to encourage women in their marriage in hopes that they won’t make the mistakes that I have.

I had shared my story with a few close friends, a pastor, and a family counselor, but didn’t feel the need to make it a part of my ministry. I don’t want to focus on sin when there is so much hope for our future. God had other plans.

I was recently featured in our local paper—an enormous photo of me along with a write up called “Biblical Sense.” The secular public did not take kindly to seeing an article with a focus on wives living out their Godly purpose of being that of a help-meet.

I can take their criticism with a grain of salt. What was difficult to swallow however, was facing the people who knew who I was, knew what I had done, and couldn’t comprehend the healing power of God’s amazing grace.

As long as I’m sharing the gospel, there will always be people who are waiting for me to slip up, desiring to dance on my grave; and hoping to tell you my secrets. So that you too might know what a sinner I’ve been.

Let me tell you first– I am a sinner who is nothing without the grace of our Lord. I am beaten down,  broken and lost, would it not be for the saving grace of an almighty God.

Who am I to advise women on their marriage? I ask. But still I feel a nudge from the Lord to press on while His words of encouragement whisper to me:

All who have this hope in him purify themselves, just as he is pure. ~ 1 John 3:3

I’m definitely not good enough. But truth be told, the world as a whole isn’t either. Grace is for sinners, and it’s taking me a while to understand that and accept it, but to tell you the truth it’s all I have left to hold on to.

I didn’t want to tell my story publicly, because I didn’t see the need. I didn’t want my husband or my children or my parents affected. We have put it behind us and are building a better future that glorifies God and unifies us as a couple. I am so full of joy these days that I can’t believe I’m the same person. And I know that I have joy because of grace, nothing else.

I don’t know where I’d be right now if it wasn’t for God’s forgiveness and His righteousness. I really don’t. All I know is that I truly felt dead in sin, and now I’m alive.

I wept at my father’s hospital bedside today. Sorry to cause him grief in his last days, but that’s what sin does. It not only eats away at our soul, it affects the people around us.

Dad’s advice to me was this, “God doesn’t care what you did yesterday–He cares about what you do today.”

I’m telling you this, because I believe that there is healing and hope when we confess our sins to one another. I’m not perfect—I’m just forgiven.

He brings us to the place where hope was clear. The time before the journey made you old. The place where children live. He brings you back to yourself so you can remember you and Him.” ~ Serena Woods, author of Grace is for Sinners

You are loved by an almighty God,

Darlene Schacht

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DarleneSchacht

Darlene Schacht is an ordinary mom, living an extraordinary life, because of who she is through Jesus Christ. As help-meet to her husband Michael, she guides and nurtures their four children, leading them toward a deeper walk of faith. Her work has been published in anthologies by Thomas Nelson, Tyndale Publishing and Adams Media. As well she has co-authored a book with actress Candace Cameron Bure called, Reshaping it All: Motivation for Spiritual and Physical Fitness. You can find her blogging at Time-Warp Wife where she empowers wives to joyfully serve.

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35 Comments on “is your grace for me, too?”

  1. 1 Courtney (WomenLivin said at 3:45 am on March 2nd, 2011:

    Thank you Darlene for your transparency. I love your testimony of restoration. Your husband has loved you as Christ loves the church. Beautiful!!! And you in turn are responding and honoring him as the church honors Christ. What an amazing story of grace – I love you both – Serena and Darlene! Thank you for sharing your stories – I have learned so much (((Hugs))) to you both!

    Courtney

  2. 2 Serena Woods said at 4:00 am on March 2nd, 2011:

    "I won’t say I made a “mistake.” A mistake is picking up 1% milk instead of 4. The ugly truth is that I sinned and I have no one to blame but myself."

    That's my favorite line.

    Thank you for sharing your story here, Darlene. 🙂

  3. 3 Jason said at 4:52 am on March 2nd, 2011:

    I agree with Serena…that line is powerful. It's also so incredibly encouraging to someone who might be facing what you faced to see that you can take a firm stand like that, not pass the buck and still have God redeem your life.

    You're going to help so many people with your kind heart, transparency and honesty.

  4. 4 Sonya Schroeder said at 5:02 am on March 2nd, 2011:

    Darlene you know I love you girl. Your story truly is inspiring even through all the choices made. It is through Gods grace that we become new in Him. You are right we all have a story, one where we come to Him broken & scared. Once we accept Him, the one who forgives we can share with others.

    Serena and Darlene you both are brave ladies for putting your stories out there, however its how we show Gods great love and grace when we come clean! May God bless you both when your amazing stories!! Big hugs from NC!!!

  5. 5 Darlene Schacht said at 5:11 am on March 2nd, 2011:

    Thank you Courtney and Serena.

    And yes, I agree with what Jason said too. It's so easy to pass the buck. I could blame it on a number of things if I searched for a reason, but unless I accept sin as the ugly stain on the soul that it is, I won't see the power grace in it's true light.

    You can't deodorize sin and disguise it as grace.

  6. 6 Erin@It's Grace said at 5:13 am on March 2nd, 2011:

    "As long as I’m sharing the gospel, there will always be people who are waiting for me to slip up, desiring to dance on my grave; and hoping to tell you my secrets. So that you too might know what a sinner I’ve been." And this…is what makes the gospel so beautiful.

    Love and prayers to you, Darlene..

    Erin@It's Grace

  7. 7 Tammy@if meadows spe said at 5:18 am on March 2nd, 2011:

    Thank you Darlene and Serena. I related to a vlog Serena posted recently and how true it was for me too. And how being a victim I was a fighter, perhaps became too much of one. Started to think I could take on anything and by golly, no one was going to take advantage or abuse me now that I was grown. But the biggest thing I didn't count on was taking on myself and how I was capable of tearing it all down, my own hands. That was harder because I only had me to blame now. Darlene, your testimony is the kind I needed way back in the beginning, even as a teenager before my journey into a young marriage. God will be glorified in this and He truly makes beauty from ashes and I so see it here.

  8. 8 ROBYN said at 6:04 am on March 2nd, 2011:

    There are times in my life that SATAN gets in my head and tells me…."Your sins are too great!"

    I get so caught up in MY SINS (past) reliving the shame, reliving the sorrow, reliving the anger, reliving the SIN…. and can't seem to move forward.

    Even with repentence, even with PRAYERS, and meditation and Bible study, my SINs haunts me………

    and I feel insecure about EVERYTHING.

    Satan is cunning and I know that HE is lurking there…. in my mind…. I know that in those DARK places….growth, real growth happens………. but I am growing tired of the battle.

    I surrender……….ALL.

    (You think that is what God is waiting on…..my TRUE surrender?)

  9. 9 Brandee said at 6:17 am on March 2nd, 2011:

    I think you are very brave for sharing. Thanking God for His grace, offered to all of us sinners through the ultimate sacrifice of Jesus Christ.

  10. 10 Janelle said at 6:57 am on March 2nd, 2011:

    Darlene…. What an amazing testimony. God's grace surely is enough. Keep spreading the word… I know this will serve as a huge encouragement to others. Love, janelle

  11. 11 Lisa Maria said at 7:19 am on March 2nd, 2011:

    Darlene & Serena

    Thank you for stepping out and sharing your stories so that you can help others. There are so many people out there who need it.

    I, too, believe that we have to always remember that we are sinners.. we recently did in the James bible study that it doesn't matter which commandment we break, we are all sinners. As humans, the tendency to point at other people's sins as worse than ours is one of our more horrible weaknesses. I've been touched by the fingers of infidelity myself… more like grabbed and had my world ripped apart by it. God's grace is sufficient… I didn't listen to the world but to His Grace and, thankfully, he brought all that was in the darkness to the light for healing…. not just the infidelity, but all the other things that were rottening beneath the surface. He, in His infinitely wonderful wisdom, used something that was ugly and broken and created something new and beautiful. My marriage is better now than it ever was before. Praise God! and thank God for people like you who are living testimonies to His love and mercy.

    God bless you all!

  12. 12 Serena Woods said at 7:22 am on March 2nd, 2011:

    Robyn said:"There are times in my life that SATAN gets in my head and tells me….”Your sins are too great!”

    I get so caught up in MY SINS (past) reliving the shame, reliving the sorrow, reliving the anger, reliving the SIN…. and can’t seem to move forward.

    Even with repentence, even with PRAYERS, and meditation and Bible study, my SINs haunts me………

    and I feel insecure about EVERYTHING.

    Satan is cunning and I know that HE is lurking there…. in my mind…. I know that in those DARK places….growth, real growth happens………. but I am growing tired of the battle.

    I surrender……….ALL.

    (You think that is what God is waiting on…..my TRUE surrender?)"

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    Robyn: I hear what you're saying. I've been there…

    For the purpose of leading you to a thought process, I have a question for you:

    What have you learned from your failure?</stong>

  13. 13 Juliet deWal said at 8:40 am on March 2nd, 2011:

    "As long as I’m sharing the gospel, there will always be people who are waiting for me to slip up, desiring to dance on my grave; and hoping to tell you my secrets. So that you too might know what a sinner I’ve been."

    I love that. Because it's so, so true.

    When first I started my own blog, I posted "My Scarlett Letters" and spelled out every awful thing I've done—both for the reason you speak of, but also, for the many, many women who have also fallen, stumbled or skydived into failure and need to know that Jesus truly IS bigger.

    Thank you so very much for your honesty and courage in sharing your story. I am touched deeply, and my heart is moved.

    Your Dad's quote is the most beautiful, simple wisdom, hey?

  14. 14 Tammy@if meadows spe said at 8:59 am on March 2nd, 2011:

    Ps. Afterthought on this: "Grace is for sinners. But what about me, Lord?" What about divorce and the shame of it? What about the Christian with a prodigal daughter? What about this one who's wallowed in a pig stye of sin (me)? Lord, me too? And oh Darlene, His grace is for you, for me and for her and her and him and on…. And perhaps because of sin (or the ones we consider higher than another) gives us a deeper, greater knowledge of the depths of Grace because of them. Now that's Power…to turn what we think is black ugly into more abundant Grace and beauty.

  15. 15 Darlene Schacht said at 9:00 am on March 2nd, 2011:

    Robyn,

    It's one thing to be forgiven, but it's an entirely different thing to accept His grace and leave your shame at His feet.

    I was given these words paraphrased from Psalm 3, "He is the glory and the lifter of my head. When I don't have the strength, when all my friends seem to turn their backs on me, when I don't feel I am worth anything, He sustains me."

  16. 16 Darlene Schacht said at 9:03 am on March 2nd, 2011:

    Sonya, Erin, Tammy, Brandy, and Janelle, your words of encouragement minister to me. Thank you.

  17. 17 Darlene Schacht said at 9:13 am on March 2nd, 2011:

    Juliet, you're so right. Simple yet powerful words of wisdom. It's like God's grace–it's so simple yet we complicate it with our guilt and shame.

    Guilt serves it's purpose in bringing us to the cross, but we need to find a way to leave it there.

    Tammy, you've got it right on the mark. That's been on my heart so much this year. I'd never felt the weight of my sin like I should have before. What's one small lie? It's insignificant to the world, but what if that one little lie was the nail in His hand or a scar His back? I'm grieved to think of the weight of my sin that was carried on the cross by our Lord. Big or small it's the weight of sin that He took from me.

    Thank you ladies, I cherish your encouragement and fellowship in faith.

  18. 18 Melissa @ frugalchri said at 10:03 am on March 2nd, 2011:

    Just stumbled across your blog and this post today, Darlene. Beautiful! It was not until I saw the depths of my sin and what I was "capable" of, that I was able to really understand and appreciate GRACE. The reality is, when I was "good," and "walking worthily," I was also walking in pride.

    So thankful for Jesus Christ who has covered EVERY sin for those who are His!! Woo-Hoo for GRACE!!!

    Your Sister,

    Melissa

  19. 19 Susan (HomeGrownKids said at 10:14 am on March 2nd, 2011:

    Oh how brave…only grace can empower you with His strength to now be so brave for forgiven much- love much.

    Bless you for sharing.

  20. 20 Heather said at 10:27 am on March 2nd, 2011:

    Darlene-Thank you so much for sharing your story. I feel like I am your exact audience, "to encourage women in their marriage in hopes that they won’t make the mistakes that I have."

    I love your story along with Serena's because it shouts in the face of my naiveness. It warns me that sin is out for my marriage, my body, my soul. You ladies have turned the lights on for me.

  21. 21 Serena Woods said at 1:53 pm on March 2nd, 2011:

    Darlene: Thank you for being vulnerable and transparent here. It's what 'grace is for sinners' is all about.

  22. 22 Kimberley C. said at 1:59 pm on March 2nd, 2011:

    Grace is something that few of us understand. It's a life long learning process. Mercy is something some of us try to follow via ritual & law to a level of justice but we still cannot comprehend. You have a courage beyond many on this earth. It's this type of Christian Courage that people need to learn about and grow from. So often our secular friends think we are either judgmental or perfectionists, they don't see that many Christians find grace in trial, failure & perseverance. As C.S. Lewis said, "There are believers & there are followers". Rarely do they go understand each other. Sometimes they don't all share a pew together at church on Sunday because some of the followers have been hurt by the believers. Sometimes the believers don't understand the followers. Hopefully, your message can provide a bridge to both, an understanding to our secular friends, and healing to you & your family.

  23. 23 Serena Woods said at 2:07 pm on March 2nd, 2011:

    Kimberley: Well said. I love it.

  24. 24 eileen said at 2:30 pm on March 2nd, 2011:

    I have dear friends struggling with this right now. I've been praying for healing for everyone involved. Thank you for this. The hope and the grace we find in Him is so encouraging and so undeserved.

  25. 25 Barbara said at 3:48 pm on March 2nd, 2011:

    Wow I so related to this Darlene. I went through this a few years back, eight to be exact except it destroyed my marriage. I walked away from God for a time and chose to go my own way after being married for 26 years to a Christian man. I am now in an unequally yoked marriage and can't begin to tell you the things I have had to deal with. I know God is going to do awesome things in my life and I do have hope in this new marriage, but it's been a painful journey for me. Reading your testimony is an inspiration, as for a long time I carried the shame of what I had done and sometimes I felt like I was the only one. All those former years in my first marriage we raised our sons in a Christian home. I was on the praise team and my husband was a Royal Ranger Leader and taught Sunday School. I have moved over a thousand miles away from my children and grandchildren and every time I go back for a visit I am painfully aware of what I am missing and every Sunday that I sit alone in church I am reminded of what I had. In saying all that I realize I can't continue to look back, but to keep my eyes on Jesus the author and finisher of my faith. He has done great things in my heart and life since I have repented and turned my life around. Thanks again for sharing. I am so thankful for God's grace and forgiveness.

  26. 26 Robyn said at 5:34 pm on March 2nd, 2011:

    Serena,

    What have I learned? That I stand in judgement of NO ONE…because I am as much a sinner as anyone else.

    I learned that God’s love is the greatest HIGH ever. I felt it once so strong in me…surrounding me, that I felt “in HIS arms!” PURE LOVE! and I want that feeling every single day!

    I learned that this life is full of stress, dissapointments and at the end of the day, I know NOTHING! My hope rests in GOD taking over my life…

    therefore, it all comes down to TRUST. Am I trusting enough the words that flow from my fingers……right here…right now… to KNOW that GOD HAS ALREADY GOT THIS! I just have to let go.

    Darlene,

    I am learning the hard way, through a major test within my life and my family, that I have to lay it down (but letting go of control…that is where I have problems.) Not that I don’t know God has forgiven me, loves me, accepts me and my imperfections, but that I LOVE ME enough to BE TRULY LOVED and WORTHY.

  27. 27 Serena Woods said at 1:47 pm on March 2nd, 2011:

    Robyn:

    What you have learned, through your failure, lines you up with scripture better than any Sunday school class could have. These scriptures have become a part of you. They are no longer something you try to do. See?…..

    That I stand in judgement of NO ONE

    Luke 6:37

    I learned that God’s love is the greatest HIGH ever.

    1 John 4:8 & 16

    I know NOTHING!

    1 Corinthians 13:9

    My hope rests in GOD taking over my life…

    Psalm 25:5 & Psalm 39:7

    it all comes down to TRUST

    2 Corinthians 1:9

    to KNOW that GOD HAS ALREADY GOT THIS!

    Job 42:2

    I just have to let go.

    Luke 9:62; Philippians 3:12-13

    The key to understanding the magnitude of grace and the key to being able to let go of your past is to see that God is using your life experiences to mold you into who He created you to be. Your failures no longer have the power over you, they are used by God to teach you the things you need to know and equip you with the tools that you need for your God designed purpose. See your failure as a teaching tool, not as a flaw. Grace gives Life where there was supposed to be death. Grace gives failure a purpose. When you ask 'why', answer your own question with what you've learned.

    The proof for what I am saying is in your own words/experience and it is backed by scripture:

    Indeed, we felt that we had received the sentence of death. But that was to make us rely not on ourselves but on God who raises the dead. -2 Corinthians 1:9

    Remind yourself of this every time you try to look back over your shoulder to determine your future…..

    Not that I have already obtained this or am already perfect, but I press on to make it my own, because Christ Jesus has made me his own. Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead… Philippians 3:12-13

  28. 28 Darlene Schacht said at 5:58 pm on March 2nd, 2011:

    I feel like I’m wrapped in the warmth of a Bible study group of caring women here. Thank you to all of you for sharing and reaching out in love with your own insecurities, your encouragement and your love.

    I am blessed beyond words to be a part of this group in our sacred corner of the web.

    Thank you, Serena for trusting me with your audience today, and for boldly leading us with your message of grace.

  29. 29 Robyn said at 2:56 am on March 3rd, 2011:

    Serena,

    Thank you for showing me HIS truth through the WORD. Your blog is a must read for me! Thank you for this ministry.

    Robyn

  30. 30 Jamie M said at 4:10 am on March 3rd, 2011:

    As someone who has gone through this same thing and dealt with hurting those around me, I want to say thank you for sharing this. I personally learned so much when I fell so hard, and until this moment I thought I had learned all I needed to from that experience. I was wrong. As I sit here crying and healing all over again, I realize that even though it's been over 5 years since I dealt with it i've never fully let it go. I've continued to hold onto my guilt and shame because it almost felt wrong to fully let it go. Not that i've let on to anyone else about that but it's been in my heart the whole time, to everyone else i'd moved on a long time ago. I think I felt if I let go of all of it I was letting go of the severity of what i'd done, and open myself up to it again. Sounds silly huh? But I have to say that i've spent some time this morning praying and working to let it go once and for all. There's such relief in accepting the fact that i'm not meant to walk in shame for the rest of my life. Yes, I messed up. And i've known all along that I didn't have to walk in that shame for the rest of my life, but in my heart I haven't been living it. But now i'm seeing that I can still have a purpose and a ministry in spite of what i'd done. Your saying "Grace is for sinners" describes it so well! I never knew what true grace was until I needed it. Not only that, but i'm still learning exactly what it means. So thank you again for sharing this and for your ministry. You've helped to change my life in a huge way!

  31. 31 Darlene Schacht said at 6:18 am on March 3rd, 2011:

    Jamie,

    I've been so blessed by a husband who reflects the love of Christ. I hope that you are surrounded by love like that too. My husband has helped me walk through this by insisting that I let go of that guilt, and accept forgiveness.

    I have felt the same way as you, and I still do some days. I think that putting myself down will prove to the world how sorry I am. But when we do this we can't move on, because we aren't embracing the reality that God's forgiveness and cleansing restores us from who we once were to who we are today.

    I'm so glad that you are ready and willing to let go of it now. I am praying for you this morning.

  32. 32 Darlene Schacht said at 6:21 am on March 3rd, 2011:

    Amen Eileen.

    And Barbara, your testimony is one that we can all learn from before we make mistakes like that too. Life can't be undone. Thank you for sharing your story.

  33. 33 Jamie M said at 6:27 am on March 3rd, 2011:

    My husband is very much like yours and has been wonderful though everything. He is not at all the cause of any guilt i've felt. It's all just me continuing to hang it over my head. 🙂

    That's exactly how i've felt though! I have seen it as showing how sorry I am and it has kept me from moving on. Thank you again for this post and for praying for me. This has been an interesting morning for me for sure!

  34. 34 Grace A. said at 3:43 am on March 4th, 2011:

    Hi everyone, I've been in this situation,never thought it would happen to me. I have failed alot in life,a terrible daughter,i was a follower of the crowd ,looking to be popular and cool,"being bad",never thought about how it would affect me in the future or my family,but when i had my husband and my kids,I wanted different,but instead I became depressed and started dawning of the fact that i wasnt prepared for marriage or motherhood,and it was the truth I wasnt mentally. We got the internet, and I made a aol account and myspace,and had requests within the same day!form the same crowd of people when I was younger,I felt special that people even thought about me,and looked me up!little did I know that Satan knew my failures and my weaknesses,my past,my character,and that I was being set up for the worst that could have happened in my marriage life."Friends" were so happy to find me somehow,yep to help even more destroy my life,and boy did I let them.My ex also found me,it took me awhile before I accepted him,I felt bad.He started complaining about his life,his "babymama" drama and saying that if we're still together,he wouldnt being going tru that.I told him I was married with 2 kids,and Im not trying to hear it. He somehow blew up on me,saying who do I think I am,that i wasnt better then him,and I couldnt change from how I was before.I started crying,believing what he said was true,I was scared to fail again,especially my kids,my husband.From there I started go down hill,I started believing all the lies,from my friends,"you're trapped in a different country!" "wow,youre ex found you,its meant to be!". I had told my husband what was going on.All he said was be careful with that.You know the Devil is so meticulous.After I started chatting with these people online,my husband started to bring up my ex in the bedroom, saying things like if it were youre ex you would do it. That crushed me! and I started believing the lies even more,the same quotes from my "friends",that maybe this was all happening for a "reason".But wait, I also was to have a trip to my hometown NY,where all these "friends" were.It was like a time line just waiting to hit climax. We got the internet,I made an aol,was requested the same day!my ex found me,and I had a trip to go there to my hometown for some business.By the time I had gotten over there,I was gone. I had seeked my ex to get some closure"discuss", so we can both move on in peace,that didnt happen,the little diginity I had left I was about to throw out.It breaks my heart because,it was one thing to be a failure to my parents,family,society,but to my kids!my husband!was devastating.It was there I felt that change was never going to happen,it was all true.This is what happens when you dont have a foundation,for me that's Christ,my hope,my marriage wasnt built on a rock,it was built on sand!And now,I am left in the sand.

  35. 35 Darlene Schacht said at 10:59 am on March 4th, 2011:

    Jamie,

    That's awesome to hear. I'm glad you have that blessing of a supportive husband.

    Grace,

    Your testimony is important because social networking is a temptation that we are all dealing with right now. Not only is it a looming temptation, but it's also too easy. This easy access to infidelity is something we've never experienced before in history. We are just one click away from flirting at any moment of the day in the privacy of our own home.

    It's important to be aware of the risks and to honor our vows enough to set boundaries before we are drawn in.

    I'm sorry that you went through this. Bless you for sharing your heart.


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