…and a few minutes of fame.
I was approached by a producer for Oprah’s new network, OWN, to be part of a new series on adultery. I don’t have an issue with the series. Their goal is to bring the subject out into the open and share stories of others who have been through it and survived. They want to give these stories some ‘take away value’ in order to help people who are in the hell of going through it.
I was to be an ‘especially exceptional’ point of view because most of the people who are willing to talk are those whose marriages survived. I have friends who are going to be a part of this series and I’ll be watching when their episode airs.
My story is different. I only talk about my affair because of God’s grace for the worst scenario. Without it, I never would have survived the guilt and shame.
I turned down the opportunity because I need to keep a tight reign on how my ‘happy ending’ is used and portrayed. If they edit out the reason I’m okay, then I’m just a selfish girl with nothing to say. The other stories, the marriages that survived, will give wholesome hope even if their relationship with God gets edited out. Mine, on the other hand, has the potential to give false hope to people who think they can survive without grace.
Affairs destroy people. I refuse to be portrayed as an example of a happy ending with the part about grace edited out. Without it, the hope in my life doesn’t add up.
I’ve had a few ’15 minutes’, I’ll have a few more. Just not this one.