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Posted: November 13th, 2011 | Filed under: life | 17 Comments »

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If you’re going to walk away from someone, don’t make it about religion just to make yourself feel better. You’re trying to cover something that doesn’t even need covering. You could end up demonizing them just because you don’t want to be friends anymore. If you don’t like someone, you don’t have to be friends with them. You’re not the only one qualified enough to lead the annoying people in your life to Jesus (hāso͞os)? You’re not their only hope and the fact that you kinda think you are makes you highly unqualified. Go get a ‘secular’ hobby, you’ve lost your flavor. (And if you use the word ‘secular’ a lot, you’ve probably lost your flavor.)

If you’re going to take the hits from another, don’t make it about religion just to earn a martyr tourist t-shirt. You don’t have to take an abusive situation just because you have two cheeks. That’s not what that scripture means, nor is it what ‘carrying your own cross’ means. When someone rejects you, bring your right hand to your left ear and brush your fingers along your left shoulder in an outward direction. Keep your eyes steadily focused on theirs and after your second brushing motion, raise your eyebrow, just slightly, then turn on your heel and walk away. (This would be better with a leather jacket, if you have one, and a soft pack of smokes hidden somewhere in there so you can pop it out and light it up with a Zippo, it has to be a Zippo. You don’t have to smoke it. It just makes for a better silhouette when you’re walking away James Dean style.)

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jd


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17 Comments on “how to”

  1. 1 KairaB said at 1:17 pm on November 13th, 2011:

    This is so good! I've been "the martyr" and it is miserable – for everyone. Walking away was the only way to move on and get over myself – too bad I didn't look so cool when I made my move. 😉

  2. 2 serenawoods said at 1:27 pm on November 13th, 2011:

    Ha! 🙂 James Dean style.

  3. 3 KairaB said at 1:31 pm on November 13th, 2011:

    Next time… next time I'll rock that. 🙂
    My recent post I miss him.

  4. 4 Jen said at 1:19 pm on November 13th, 2011:

    Your sense of humor cracks me up! It's refreshing I like the message, too.

  5. 5 serenawoods said at 1:27 pm on November 13th, 2011:

    I'm glad you get the humor. 🙂

  6. 6 Tiffany said at 1:28 pm on November 13th, 2011:

    Food for thought….been struggling with this for a while. My father has repeatedly rejected me for the better part of 25 years. I still "try" to do the right thing where he is concerned…the sad thing is I am not sure what the "right" thing is anymore. I stay confused. My heart stays heavy where he is concerned and while I wonder why I keep hoping something will change, my Mom keeps telling me to stop doing things in hopes that he will change…do them because I know they are the "right" thing to do…I get that, but I still struggle with how to let go of that hope and just do what I know I should do…Does that make any sense? All I know is I am tired of being confused.

  7. 7 KairaB said at 1:34 pm on November 13th, 2011:

    I'm really sorry for your pain. I understand a little bit of what that must feel like and I'm sorry for the hurt of it. I don't know what to do myself but I know that God can fix it if it is his will and I trust in that. I'll remember you in prayer.
    My recent post I miss him.

  8. 8 serenawoods said at 5:46 pm on November 13th, 2011:

    My overall point is to make people think about what they are doing and why they are doing it. Sometimes it's "I'm going to be their friend because I want to be a 'Christian' influence on them." But, I don't think that's a good reason and it's probably doing more harm than good. That's not a friendship, it's an opportunity for the 'Christian' influence. Like a salesman… Sometimes people are in damaging situations and feel like they have to take it because it's where they are. That's not good either. You don't have to be in damaging situations and proof of that is your two legs. You know it's time to go when you are hurting just being there.

    I don' t know enough about your situation to say much about it, except that it makes me sad and I hate it for you. I'm not sure the two things I mentioned even apply. The situations I was thinking of, when writing this, were from years of watching people do it and it not working and the other from hearing about a pastor who told someone to keep his/her mouth shut about the abuse happening in his/her private life because that is "the cross God gave him/her to bear."

  9. 9 Joann Sosa said at 4:14 pm on November 13th, 2011:

    L O V E this to pieces!!! thanks for writing!!!

  10. 10 serenawoods said at 5:47 pm on November 13th, 2011:

    Thanks, Joann. 🙂

  11. 11 Diane said at 6:01 pm on November 13th, 2011:

    Hehehe.. you make me laugh:-D

    You also make me think… about old things in new ways. That is a good thing and I appreciate that about you. Very much:)
    My recent post So simple, so lovely..

  12. 12 serenawoods said at 10:07 pm on November 13th, 2011:

    Thanks, Diane. 🙂

  13. 13 @kjpetrella said at 10:36 pm on November 13th, 2011:

    The wit is priceless, Serena.

    On a more serious note, I only wish the shoulder-brush was as easy as it sounds 🙂
    My recent post the hurry and scurry of cathedrals

  14. 14 alys said at 12:42 am on November 14th, 2011:

    tears tears lots of tears, made me laugh make me cry lots of tears

  15. 15 Robyn said at 5:27 am on November 14th, 2011:

    Finger snap, head roll, hand on hip…..
    My recent post Warped humor

  16. 16 Michelle said at 1:51 pm on November 15th, 2011:

    I hope this is really okay…the freedom in it scares me.

  17. 17 Janelle@GraceTags said at 8:13 pm on November 15th, 2011:

    WOW! Powerful! Seriously amazing post, Serena!

    Janelle
    GraceTags


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