a good woman

Posted: January 15th, 2010 | Filed under: life | Tags: | Comments Off on a good woman

A good woman is hard to find, and worth far more than diamonds. Her husband trusts her without reserve, and never has reason to regret it. -Proverbs 31:10

She gives him gifts. The smell in the linen closet, the perfect spice, the flake in the crust.

She always knows where it is when he asks.

Her home is warm like the insides of her arms.

She diverts her eyes and lets the sad and hollow music sing what she really feels. She keeps herself for him.

Never spiteful, she treats him generously all her life long. -Proverbs 31:11

Invisible in the only world she has, but integrity is the height in her graceful walk. It’s something she sees others notice, but knows they don’t know the half of it.

A good woman is hard to find. Because a good woman keeps her best hidden from a sifting world. She is a treasure for the man she chose and a good woman doesn’t let anyone else know. Generous and reserved. Resourceful and controlled. She buys the best and scrapes till the last.

She’s perfected her domestic dance and knows just how to bend and turn. She holds him up, makes it easy for him and never looks back.

Her children respect and bless her. -Proverbs 31:28

Her children praise her, but her husband doesn’t know how. Her children look for her, but her husband doesn’t know he needs to. Her children smell her hair, but her husband has fallen asleep.

“One of the biggest things that made me vulnerable to an affair was that the outsider saw all of those things. …The exact qualities I thought worthy of being seen disappeared when I showed them.” -Grace Is For Sinners

A good woman doesn’t make her husband wish he hadn’t trusted her. When she took her generosity away from him, she fell in front of her children.

But the serpent said to the woman, “You shall not surely die.” -Genesis 3:4


The modesty of maternity clothes mocked how she came to need them.

Now, with enormous compassion, I’m bringing you back. -Isaiah 54:7

Grace was immediate. Immediate was too soon, she decided. But grace kept knocking. Stalking. Singing and creeping.

It was a set up, getting grace to come. She knew He’d come and now that He was there, she changed her mind. She could hurt her husband, confuse her children, but this, she could not do. She had at least that much decency left in her.

Are you going to let your stubborn speck of decency keep you from becoming wholly decent?’

Who is playing who?

The only way to be made right is to give up the only good she had left. She had to accept a gift she would be socially punished for having. She could not make herself pay if she wanted her debt to be paid.

“A good woman is hard to find, and worth far more than diamonds. Her husband trusts her without reserve, and never has reason to regret it.”

Afflicted city, storm-battered, unpitied: I’m about to rebuild you with stones of turquoise, Lay your foundations with sapphires, construct your towers with rubies, Your gates with jewels, and all your walls with precious stones. All your children will have God for their teacher—what a mentor for your children! You’ll be built solid, grounded in righteousness, far from any trouble—nothing to fear! far from terror—it won’t even come close! If anyone attacks you, don’t for a moment suppose that I sent them, And if any should attack, nothing will come of it. -Isaiah 54:11-15

Grace made her a ‘good woman’ again. Innocence restored. She stands on a foundation of sapphires, leans against towers of rubies and watches the stones of turquoise stack among walls glimmering with precious stones. Grace is what her children have learned. Grace is the middle name of a daughter born out of sin. Grace is tattooed on the wrist of the ‘good woman.’ Grace is for this sinner, taking the ‘forever’ out of her failure.

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